Aha, so that dreaded V-day has finally come around, and what every person not with a partner likes to refer to as 'Single-Awareness Day'. Unfortunately, I belong to one of these, something I've done for 18 out of 19 years of my life. Yes, I have only had a girlfriend round Valentines day once, and that spectacularly failed. So my disposition towards this lovely day is less than positive.
*rant time* I mean, what is so good about Valentines day anyways? You get to tell your partner that you love him/her more than anything in the world and that you'll never leave them or anything and..wait, isn't that what you're supposed to tell them EVERYDAY? ]=< I mean, surely you don't need just one day to re-iterate this? Just like Marriage - why do you need a piece of paper to tell you that you love the person lots and lots and lots.
But hey,enough about complaing. Time for happy. The reason why I started talking about Valentines Day first was because I get to follow it up with what everyone ('cept the anti-asian people) will love. HAPPY CHINESE NEW YEAR. Yes, Sunday marks the day that the Chinese Calendar returns back to Day 1, and a new year dominated by a different animal begins. In this case, the Tiger, the third of the Zodiacs.
Umm, well, that's all I got on the subject. Iwas going to taste some chinese food during lunch at works, but well...I opted for the Burger King. And when I got home, I watched that New Star Trek Movie everyone was raving about, and had Stew and Dumplings for dinner. The Stew was nice..and the film was good, so everything worked out fine. : D
So next year I'm DEFINETELY going to try out some celebratory Chines foodstuffs, regardless of whether it looks bad or good or whatever.
I'm just hoping that next year Chinese New year will land on Pancake day (:
-Dex
"Rescue me, take my hand. By myself, alone I stand" - Zebrahead (Rescue Me)
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I think you feel the same way about Valentines day as quite a few (I don't want to be so bold as to say most, but it wouldn't surprise me) people in serious relationships do - 'What's the point?' It's a holiday that it's so easy to be cynical about, probably because cynicism is justified. As you said, if you love someone, you shouldn't need prompting to show or tell them, and you shouldn't love them more or feel the need to show them more on a particular day simply because it is dictated by our society. (Although very few people seem to apply the same reasoning to Christmas, perhaps because less people are 'single' at Christmas.) I don't envy people who feel the need to make a huge deal out of V day.
ReplyDeleteI disagree with you completely on marriage though. I'd say that marriage is primarily a show of commitment (because of love). You're willing to enter into a vow of love and care with another person for 'as long as you both shall live'. That's why it's a big deal, as far as I see it.
I got my partner something for V-Day, but I wanted to do it anyway, as it's something he's wanted for quite some time.
ReplyDeleteI used it as an excuse to do something nice for him without losing face (we have a very weird relationship).
I agree, though: You should always show the one you love in that way that you love them, without the need for a tacky heart-plastered waste of time.
That said, it's also the first time I've ever not been single on V-Day, as avoiding a commitment seems to be my standard pattern of behaviour.
Oh, and re: marriage - Dex, I completely agree with you; de facto relationships show more commitment, in my opinion, if only because they're so much harder to legally terminate than a marriage!